Trauma can be transformed . The energy of trauma can be changed. The work is upon us. The intention is upon us —- how to use our trauma.

This is exactly what Tibetan Buddhism has been focusing on—- transformation. And today I saw this in a movie on Gabor Mate.

https://wisdomoftrauma.com/movie/

Extremely powerful, beautiful and insightful, powered by Gabor Maté ‘s deep inquiry into his life and soulful voice no less.T

These are some quotes I picked up from the movie. Too much wisdom !

Working with trauma can reveal the beauty of our existence – we have lost sight of

Our job is to learn from our suffering

There’s Wisdom in trauma

Traumatic response is our imprint and not ourselves

We can work them through and become ourselves

Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happens outside you

Trauma is a disconnection

Because it’s too painful to be ourselves

It becomes a lifelong dynamic when pple don’t know what to do with emotions

When you feel you withdraw

You don’t follow gut feeling

Create situations of risk for ourselves

Affect mid frontal cortex of brain

⁃ affect how we deal with emotions pple

When pain is there as a child, they don’t know who to share with as a child

They disconnect

Children don’t get traumatized when they are hurt

Children get traumatized because They are alone when they are hurt

They are overwhelmed

Babies need fathers and mothers brain to regulate their brains

They need to be held

When baby isn’t being held he is not attached to

They can be attached only physically

They need to be held

Child is desperate for a relationship

For trauma to happen you just need parents who let child cry

Fear of being abandoned

When you do stuff for other pple what are you doing to yourself

(Abandoning me)

You absorb their pain and manifest it

And your family can’t stand you can’t stand seeing it

Child have 2 fundamental needs

-attachment

-authenticity : connection to ourselves to gut feelings

A survival necessity

What happens when you have to suppress gut and authenticity?

Normal Society doesn’t allow anger

Child disconnects fr anger

Helping child love thru anger to modulate anger and confront anger and not to suppress it

Anger does not have to be destructive

Brutal to push down the rage to judge

The depression was a major success not a failure

⁃ not wanting to get out of bed

Having Pain showed you deeper into yourself how you were abandoning yourself

Addiction

⁃ A behavior pple find relief in Eg eating shopping gaming work etc

⁃ Why the pain

⁃ Choice or inherited : When pple r suffering they want to escape that’s normal

⁃ Huge emptiness inside and Use addiction to complete themselves and cover up using substances

⁃ A response to trauma

⁃ To heal addiction heal the trauma

⁃ Under traumatized persona There’s a healthy individual who has never find expression and relationships where authentic humanic could be expressed

Are we conscious and making decision based on full awareness or driven by unconscious dynamics developed as a response to childhood trauma

Then we are not free

It’s not what’s wrong with us but what happened to us

Rae Mate

It’s got to b my job to heal Hitomi bring out that light

I believe that the Purpose of Marriage is to go back to to original trauma which comes fr the family

I married a man who is so much like my father

I have to be me

I have to be authentic

My nervous system is so wired that if I m not authentic to myself I can’t sleep I m anxious

Gabor mate

My scientific address has to do with my trauma

I woke up fairly late in life

The message I got as a child was that the world didn’t want me so what do you do

You make yourself be needed you go to medical school

That was an addiction

Asthma

⁃ suppressed rage so that lungs are

⁃ steroid

Inflamed joint

⁃ steroid

Inflamed intestine

⁃ steroid

⁃ Stress hormones: cortisol

Illness is when part of organism works against what is designed by nature to protect you

Treatment is always to burn it destroy it

But what if we say, it’s here now: what is the teaching? What does it say of my life my relationships and especially how I treat myself?

Psychedelic

Get the conditioned mind out of the way

And look at exactly, deep into yourself

Cancer

Suppress anger

Not having to disappoint others

Check in with your body when you express yourself and do things that deprive yourself of energy

Feels good to feel

This boy just wants to be loved and accepted unconditionally

And he figures out how to be loved and accepted

If u don’t allow your fear to be there

You gonna be always working to get rid of it and you gonna keep working

Or you could say

Ok the fear is there I let it be there

There’s a shift

Compassion and enquirer

Truth is inside us we just have to ask the right qns

Shame of negative emotions and that you cannot be weak

We don’t respond to what happens

We respond to our perception of what happened

It’s with our minds we create world

And we always choose the worst ones

Brain jumps to automatically

It goes back to childhood -First time we are hurt

Trauma – we don’t respond to the present

We respond to the past

So who’s the one who doesn’t care and respect ourselves ? It’s me

Thats the beauty of healing

the learning when we reframe things n see source within ourselves that’s liberating

If u r feeling this way or that because someone did smtg then u r a victim

But if you see the source

You r the source now you r powerful

Under traumatized persona There’s a healthy individual who has never find expression in his life

If he sees that he is trauma informed

It is not about healing trauma or getting rid of what happened but helping the person expand so there’s space

When we are compassion with ourselves it changes ourselves our community and society

Everybody as a true genuine authentic self can never be destroyed

Spiritual work for us both

Healing and still healing in a relationship

Inspiring how he’s changed

We got older

We got freeier and better and better

Dynamic emergent process of confrontation with truth

Trauma involves lifelong pushing down a tremendous expenditure of energy to not feel pain

As we heal that same energy is liberated for life for being in the present

Energy of trauma can be transformed into energy of life

I find these words from the makers of this film so beautiful:

May this little wave that stirred so many ripples through our shared ocean of awareness give us strength to continue on this journey of learning, investigating, and healing trauma in our bodies, in our social structures and in our tender world. May we continue healing, lest we pass it on to the next generations and to mother Earth.  

With this film, we hope to make a small step towards creating a more supportive culture where our challenges don’t need to live in the dark, where vulnerability is seen as healthy and encouraged, where physical and mental health are treated equally, because they are one. 

We hold the vision of a world that breaks free of the cycles of trauma and becomes more open and inclusive. It all starts with us, truly. It starts when we allow our wounds to teach us about listening, self-love and compassion and to remind us of the preciousness of life. Then truth opens our hearts and our innate wisdom begins to shine through our wounds.

Healing happens in connection, it happens in community.